Both my parents have birthdays coming up just a little after Christmas so it’s a bit mad. Dad’s birthday is first, and Mum has a big one in the new year.
It has been a bit of slog from the outset trying to organise Mum’s surprise birthday because Dad is so chill and happy to just foot the bill: that he has left everything to us really. This led to me actually having it out with him about getting all the Chinese whispers to turn into actual communication to get everyone on the same page.
As this was being “had out” in a kind of gently exasperated, “C’mon Dad….” way, Mary 2 and 3 came in and we were actually in the same room, geared towards sorting out the facts. So we’re hosting a party of thirty, at the moment the guest list stands at 27, thankfully a blend of friends and family which is comfortable.
By “comfortable” I mean it’s big enough to probably avoid the people we don’t like. Probably.
This observation does forcibly remind me of the great Fitzgerald, speaking through the vessel of the sassy Jordan Baker: ‘He gives large parties. And I like large parties. They’re so intimate. At small parties there isn’t any privacy’. Upon my initial reading I laughed at this, because it seemed to me to be a very neat, witty oxymoron: until I read the explanatory final clause. It is true. It’s always easier to go away into some nice corner in the company of a real friend, than be under the magnifying glass of a small contingent of people you might not like.
Mary 2 will do the invites and last week I went to the patisserie where I got my birthday cake this year and designed the cake with the lovely (genuinely French) French patisserie chef. I did a very brief sketch which we refined. I just believe that my Mum deserves a beautiful showstopper for her special day and I’m willing to pay for it, after personally haggling the chef down.
I also did a reccon mission down at some craft stores to see what could be used as table centres and staging if necessary. This was fun and I hope I get the chance to make these, so there may be content about “Party Business” as another great literary character put it.
~ Pola ~